Set a threshold of emotional investment with women so that your limit your potential pain from them. If you find it  difficult to flirt and hit on the ladies because it's too painful, back off a bit. Just say Hi! as you pass them on the street. Reduce your energy output so that you don't feel impacted by her  response. When you get sufficiently recharged, you can then start to risk more contact with her again, and you'll feel more up to the challenge.

 Another form of pain management is to ensure that you interpret women's reactions correctly. It's easy and tempting to read too
 much into a woman's behavior, and even more difficult to not take her reactions too seriously. Remember that while you're trying  to get into her bed, you should never try to get into her head. You need to keep your observation of her behavior based only  on the results you get. Watch only what she DOES, not what she says. Her actions will tell you what she is feeling, even when her  words seem to contradict. If you get caught up in the game of trying  to figure out why she didn't call, or why she always flirts with other guys when you're around, you'll create a lot of pain for  yourself. Stay as detached from her as possible at the early  stages so you can avoid getting misdirected.

The rule for pain management is the same as it is on Wall Street: Only invest as much as you can afford to lose. Too many guys  get into trouble by putting too much of an emotional investment  out  there, and then when they don't get the response they feel entitled  to, they turn bitter and angry. Don't make this mistake. 

Manage your pain, and you'll be able to stay in the game longer, and your endurance and tolerance will rise dramatically - as will your results. You'll feel your weaknesses around women leaving you with each step you take. 

Here's a bonus strategy: To keep your attitude and sense of self and fulfillment up - and the pain controlled - take the opportunity to create a zone in your world to affirm  your value. What you need to do is create an Ego Wall. 

 An Ego Wall is a place where you hang your awards, certificates, diplomas, pictures, plaques, etc. - all the things that pump up your opinion and belief in yourself. On my Ego Wall I've got pictures of me snowboarding, skydiving, my day at a race car school, my college diploma, my martial arts certificates, etc. It's affirming to me, and when other women see it, they understand that I'm not just waiting around on the sidelines of life - I go out and actively pursue what I want. This is immensely attractive to women. 

Make yourself an ego-wall to help you through those painful moments in your learning process. 

And remember: 

Manage that pain.

 -Carlos Xuma - Seduction Method - 
(Carlos is a contributing writer to DD Publications.)

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